tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post2009321364687312525..comments2023-10-18T05:57:30.971-07:00Comments on Me and Mine: strife for balance. again.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16248508763723778666noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post-83797122022790064942011-06-07T12:15:41.601-07:002011-06-07T12:15:41.601-07:00I loved your words - there is no perfect way to pa...I loved your words - there is no perfect way to parent or else everyone would be doing it. Amen! And it's so true, that's why I don't get when moms judge other moms.Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09826808750354256820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post-85616717902380880252011-06-03T11:34:38.711-07:002011-06-03T11:34:38.711-07:00I'm glad I'm not the only one!!! Holy cow...I'm glad I'm not the only one!!! Holy cow, I can totally relate to feeling like we are our "own kind of crazy" around here. I'm realizing that I just have to choose my battles and be CONSISTENT. There are certain drawers Teryn is allowed to get in and ones he's not, but he doesn't realize the difference yet so I'm having to not let him get into any drawers at all. Someday he'll understand reasons, discipline, and consequences....but until that day comes, I'm just having to put my foot down on certain things. He's catching on to what he can and can't do and it makes a big difference!Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581884972704841959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post-52348912007535380762011-06-03T09:08:45.540-07:002011-06-03T09:08:45.540-07:00I think that we all feel like that with parenting....I think that we all feel like that with parenting. It's not easy, no matter WHAT demeanor your child has. Noah is pretty headstrong and stubborn, too. In fact, I have a post scheduled about that on Tuesday. He has to do things his own way, in his own time. No one can force him into anything. I don't think saying no makes you a Nazi mom. But I can understand the whole getting sick of saying no and caving in thing. Been there. And I don't pick Noah up and carry him with me everywhere. We have a free roaming policy in our house too. We don't have a baby gate now that he can walk up and down the stairs, so every where in the house is free territory. And I like it that way. I've never penned him up and made him stay isolated to one area. I think you're a great mom. And like the rest of us, you just figure it out as you go. :) HAve fun this weekend!!Courtney K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02573829022325334453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post-37572469928503296072011-06-02T23:25:35.645-07:002011-06-02T23:25:35.645-07:00i have some seriously stubborn children. my oldest...i have some seriously stubborn children. my oldest and third oldest are both VERY stubborn, sassy, and feisty. although, my oldest is a little different with attachment disorder. but this is how we do discipline at my house...<br /><br />after many years of my children not listening to a word i said, repeating myself over and over until i was blue in the face, and still, no one listened, we found out about my son's disorder... and i learned that i needed to stand up for myself as a mom and gain the respect and general obedience of my children. i was pulling my hair out and at a loss for what to do... so this is what i learned and what i do...<br /><br />let's say i tell my 2 year old, "macey, you need to go clean up your toys." she has two choices... either listen to mom, and go clean up, or not do it (ignore, say no, pretend like she didn't hear me- yes, she does that). if she chooses not to, i'll say, "macey, do 5 jumping jacks." she chooses to listen or not. if she doesn't, (no matter what her excuse is), she goes to her room. when she has been in there quiet for 2 minutes (since she is 2), she comes out, and still owes me those 5 jumping jacks. once she does those (and if she doesn't, she just goes back into her room), i then repeat to her, "i need you to go clean up your toys." after the initial training (and with feisty kids, you'll do putting them back in their room for HOURS sometimes until it is worth them being obedient and respectful of you), most of the time, all they need is the jumping jacks to re-focus and do what you ask... and most of the time, she doesn't even need that. she is obedient most of the time.<br /><br />now some may see that as extreme. but i came from the opposite end where my kids did nothing i asked, weren't obedient AT ALL and had zero respect for me. so that's the route we went. with my easier kids, it worked quickly. within a few days.. and we only re-visit time out every so often. with my feisty ones, it took a few weeks before they grasped that i wasn't giving in... that i was the mom and they are the child. sounds old school and it is, compared to how most people parent these days. but my kids respect me and like having a strong mom that is in charge, rather than them feeling like they are the ones in charge... that was a long response. but thought i'd give my two cents. :) :) good luck. stubborn kids are HARD!Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561982435019506568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2644475523690081542.post-74569500146051972682011-06-02T21:59:12.835-07:002011-06-02T21:59:12.835-07:00i needed this. i have been feeling the exact same ...i needed this. i have been feeling the exact same way and graycie isn't even 1 yet. she is into everything and we are constantly saying no and i don't want to be that kind of mom. i think we need to rearrange our house a little so she can have more freedom without us having to worry about her getting into everything. however, when i am getting frustrated about graycie getting into stuff i just try to remember that if she can't break it or hurt herself then it is fine. messes can always...ALWAYS...be cleaned up. you are a wonderful mom and ryan is so so so lucky that you are his mamaMiss Mouse and Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932138094386686130noreply@blogger.com